Reach out through time and space to your forgotten child and embrace this child. Hold this precious child with your heart open and with compassion and unconditional love say, “Oh, Sweetheart, I love you with all of my heart.” Your forgotten child who once lived in a world of darkness and denial is transformed by your love. Your forgotten child is now your joyful child and reveals to you the treasure that you are. You have fallen in love. You have fallen in love with the one you thought to be the most unlikely person in the world to be in love with - yourself!
Part 12: Facing My Childhood Pain
The Important Questions To Ask Yourself
Answer the question(s) that best fits your problem or goal. Then listen or read you answer looking for insights.
1. Who is my wounded child and what has he/she experienced that has hurt him/her?
I describe my childhood pain that I have denied.
2. How is my unresolved childhood pain running me?
3. How am I willing to go back into my childhood to uncover the source of my current challenge? Am I willing to get professional help using regression therapy?
Describe the problem in detail.
4. What in my childhood was painful?
What specific events and conditions were the most painful?
5. I know my mother/father hurt me when I was a child but she/he has changed and I don’t want to upset what we have now.
How can I find a way to make a distinction between being upset with mother/father and being upset with what past mother/father did?
6. Did my problems come from my childhood?
List five self-defeating patterns (thought and behavior) and seek to see how my childhood experience created them.
7. I admit that I am sad, angry, afraid, and/or have feelings of shame.
How is this an expression of my childhood pain?