Dear One, you made a small mistake, a mistake that could be responded to with a simple sincere, “I’m sorry. What can I do to help?” All would have been forgiven and the incident forgotten. But in your shame you tried to blame another when the evidence clearly pointed to you. You denied your part … Read more

Dear One, you say that you have a temper, that out of the blue you can go into a rage. You say that this has in the past caused you much pain and shame. You have sought out and found the source of this anger in your childhood when you felt helpless. You say that … Read more

Dear One, you have been in sales all your adult life. You have trained yourself to tell people what they want to hear. You make promises you can’t keep to accomplish a momentary win. Do you not know that people can see through this? Do you not know that this pattern prevents you from being … Read more

Dear One, sometimes you say things that hurt others without thinking. You are young and it’s natural to make this kind of mistake. You are learning that perhaps it’s a good thing to recognize how your words affect others and stop yourself if your words are in question. Here’s a good rule of thumb: If … Read more

Dear One, you are passive aggressive. This means that in your fear of being rejected or hurting another’s feelings you do not say what you want or need. You don’t want to disappoint any one or make any waves. You want to appear as cooperative and easy. Then when you don’t get your needs filled … Read more