Do you tend to tell people what you think they want to hear? Do you say you will call someone when you have no intention of calling? Do you give compliments you don’t really mean? Do you make promises that seem to be true in the moment but fall apart later? If you do any of these things perhaps you are one who gives lip service. Did you know that lip service not only undermines the trust of others but undermines you? How does it do that? First understand that you give lip service in order to be liked and accepted in the moment. It’s your way of buying someone’s loyalty. You feel not so alone as though you have done something nice for someone who now owes you his or her allegiance. It’s a scam. And it falls apart very quickly causing hurt and disillusionment in others. And for you it helps create what you fear most: being alone. It also helps create for you a bad reputation. Most can see someone who gives lip service coming from afar. It’s their own need to be loved that buys into it temporarily. Ah, what a tangled web we weave…We all have something to learn from both sides of lip service.