When you complain you automatically place yourself in a position of lack, of being a victim. That’s a negative energy that invites more of the same. Complaining takes you down. Like self pity complaining is self perpetuating and can even become addictive. It can be a really bad habit. You might think that something feels … Read more

You’ve heard, “Be in the now.” There is something to it. Let’s explore this idea. If you observe your thoughts for a few minutes you may see that your thoughts focus on things past or things future. Things that happened and things that might happen. I believe that it’s necessary to have some of this … Read more

Worry is talking an attempt to resolve a problem to a destructive level. “If I worry about it that will help me keep an eye on the problem and maybe it will go away.” Or “If I worry about the possibility of something bad happening then I can prevent it from happening by constantly thinking … Read more

“I want it now” usually mean that you will get not only something less than what you really want/need but often something that is harmful to you. Here’s an example: you’re hungry and unwilling to go through the trouble of fixing yourself a healthy meal so you stop at fast food and eat something low … Read more

As a therapist I ask my clients to never say, “I don’t know.” Instead I ask that they take a moment, go within themselves, and seek out the answer. If they can’t come up with an answer then I ask them to guess. Even guessing opens the door to understanding. You can know most thing … Read more