Many therapists are so afraid of hurting their client’s feelings (and therefore losing a client) that they unfortunately give a kind of milk toast kind of therapy. Does your therapist have the courage to challenge you in areas that might be perceived as uncomfortable? Offering a challenge need not be traumatizing. For growth to occur certain self defeating patterns, thoughts, and behaviors need to become conscious. A skilled therapist can help a client see and understand these things about themselves without the sharp and hurtful feelings associated with personal growth. A good therapist will gently persevere through your blocks, not giving up but instead listening closely to you and your readiness to receive certain information. Good therapy is a dance. A good therapist has the courage to help you move through your fears.