Kelly’s brother had an unexplained fear of him. Their entire lives the were at odds, to the extreme, and his brother would be the first to retreat in a confrontation. Kelly thought his brother a coward. He could see the fear in his brother’s eyes even when Kelly was attempting to be friendly. Kelly harshly judged his brother. It seemed there was no breaking down the wall between them. As Kelly passed his 40th birthday and was in the process of enduring a painful divorce he sought counseling with me. During his therapy his relationship with his brother was discussed. Kelly was sure that there was no way to bring the two of them together. He hated his brother for beign a coward. The subject was pushed aside until Kelly agreed to participate in an intensive workshop I conduct. Not only is the workshop intense and supporting of personal growth, but for many it opens to a profoundly spiritual experience. It was so for Kelly. During the workshop Kelly had an amazing and spontaneous experience. He regressed back to a past life where he saw himself as a Union soldier during the Civil War. He saw himself capture and torture his brother, a Confederate soldier. Instantly Kelly felt grief and remorse for his actions. And he also gained a valuable understanding of his brother’s fear of him. Kelly was able to have compassion for his brother. That opened the door to healing. Kelly is still working on the relationship but with a new sense of purpose. Kelly realizes now that what he did to his brother is a part of the karmic demand that we all experience all sides of existence, including being the bad guy.
Wendy Hill is a San Diego Counselor and Hypnosis Therapist
Wendy Hill, M.A., Ph.D. candidate (2013), San Diego counselor and hypnosis therapist has been in private practice in psychotherapy and hypnotherapy in San Diego County and Encinitas for over thirty years. As a therapist and counselor Wendy specializes in transforming self-defeating core beliefs. Her therapy includes using hypnosis and counseling to treat anxiety, depression, addiction, childhood abuse, sexual abuse, relationships, self-confidence, and life challenges. Her website is www.wendyhill.com.