Do you want to know how to identify if you are the child of a narcissistic parent? I am a San Diego and Encinitas therapist in practice for over 30 year and I have seen many clients over the years who are relieved to learn that they have been raised by at least one narcissistic parent. Perhaps their relief comes from the fact that they realize that their parent had an identifiable disorder and that they are not responsible for their parent’s behavior. They often say, “At least I know why I feel the way I feel.” In this series of clues for children of narcissistic mothers and fathers I hope to educate and bring relief to those of you who suffer from the psychological and physical damage of being a child of a guilt-causing narcissistic parent. Here is clue number two: having chronic feelings of guilt colored with sadness and anger. The narcissistic parent doesn’t take responsibility for their own happiness or well-being but instead often blames his or her child, you, for their unhappiness, mistakes, lack of healthy, botched hopes, etc. You are make to feel like a “bad child” unless you think, feel, express, be, and act in certain ways. Unfortunately those “certain ways” are never, never good enough. You are left with a chronic and shaming feeling of guilt. You have hurt your parent, let them down, been disloyal to them in some often unidentifiable way. It’s called a double bind. You can never win. This leaves you with feelings of anger and sadness. Anger at the parent you intuitively know is blaming you for their dysfunctional life and sadness because any hope of getting the love you need and crave is dashed. But don’t lose hope. There is a cure for this kind of pain. Therapy can help you get rid of those awful feelings of guilty, anger, and sadness. To learn more go to www.wendyhill.com, I promise you that you can find peace of mind, even joy in your life.
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Please do call me, Kristen. Glad to talk about whatever you need. Or email me from this site. Regards, Dr. Wendy