It helps to identify if you have had a narcissistic parent. It helps life the guilt, sadness, shame, and anger having such a parent creates. I am a San Diego and Encinitas therapist and I have had many clients who find relief when they can identify having been a victim of narcissism. So here is clue number five: The Double Bind. You know the saying, “Damned if I do and damned if I don’t.” This feeling is often a pervasive feeling and experience if you are a child of narcissism. No matter how hard you try you can never be fast enough, smart enough, adequate enough, good enough, or pleasing enough for your narcissistic parent. The trouble is the child will always try. If they give up they often become bitter and rebellious causing themselves even further grief. Most often the quest for perfection continues throughout life causing a chronic sense of failure. Some of my most successful clients feel like they are not good enough no matter what they have achieved. This is a common feeling of adults raised by a narcissistic parent. If this has happened to you then take heart. There is a cure. I specialize in helping you lift the burden of perceived failure. Check out my website at www.wendyhill.com and just start reading. I think you will find the education very helpful.