In this series on narcissistic parents we consider the aspect of jealousy in helping you identify if you were raised by a narcissistic parent. As a San Diego and Encinitas therapist I see many clients who have been raised by a jealous parent. Narcissism robs the individual of their self-esteem causing them to unconsciously attempt to make up for that loss by becoming completely self-centered. A narcissistic mother will feel a sense of competition with her daughter as well as a narcissistic father with his son. The narcissistic parent’s fear is that their child will succeed more, be better liked, have more, or have a better life than they. They feel that if their child is happy and successful that in some way diminishes them. Instead of supporting their child’s self-esteem and sense of self they subtly and some times not so subtly tear it down. They can be critical and set their child up in a double bind, “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” kind of situation. If you recognize this pattern in your childhood parenting know that you likely have had a narcissistic parent. It was not your fault. However, some damage has been done and you would do well to heal it. To learn more about how go to my website, www.wendyhill.com. I want to support your freedom and peace of mind.