Let’s make a distinction between being “nice”, being kind, and being real. For many being “nice” is never saying what you really want so as to never possibly inconvenience, disappoint, or upset another. The sacrifice, of course, for being “nice” in this way is that you rarely get your needs filled and often harbor hidden resentment and disappointment yourself. So being “nice” is not being nice to yourself. You might be surprised to learn that most people do want to please you and are perfectly willing to help you get what you want and/or negotiate with you. Being real with others in a kind way is the best way to being happy in your relationships. Be real with your needs. Be kind in your attitude and how you communicate with others. You will be respected and loved for who you really are.