Sometimes in life when we are hit hard by a challenge we tend to withdraw and to isolate ourselves from others. There are times when it’s good to spend some time reflecting and feeling our feelings. We can emerge from such times of reflection more clear and even stronger than before the challenge. However, there are some who are so shamed or grieved that they remain in the shadows, isolated from humanity. Some will even set up circumstances that require that they remain isolated. Such isolation can created a feeling of resigned hopelessness about engaging in life. One will then experience a depression that reflects this sense of giving up. Marianne was hard hit by the loss of her job and the way she lost it. She was replaced by a co-worker that had less experience than Marianne and was told by her boss that she was less than adequate to continue and should consider another profession. Marianne was so shamed and grieved by the loss that she simply withdrew from her friends and family. She adopted a high needs dog that required constant attention. Marianne did not allow herself to move beyond her loss but instead isolated herself and remained stuck. Had she taken some alone time to reflect and feel she well may have emerged with a greater sense of direction and commitment to life. Take the time to feel your feelings and reflect on your life. Don’t isolate for too long. Chronic depression could follow.
Wendy Hill, M.A., Ph.D. candidate (2013) has been in private practice in psychotherapy and hypnotherapy in San Diego and Encinitas for over thirty years. As a therapist and counselor Wendy specializes in transforming self-defeating core beliefs. Her therapy includes using hypnosis and counseling to treat anxiety, depression, addiction, childhood abuse, sexual abuse, relationships, self-confidence, and life challenges. Her website is www.wendyhill.com.