When I was twelve years old I learned a powerful lesson about discipline that has lasted my entire lifetime. Up ’til then I had regarded discipline as some kind of punishment. “You must discipline yourself!” meant to me, “You must punish yourself.” I knew that discipline was important to learn because my parents told me … Read more

Your defenses are your way of surviving in the world. Many of your defenses are actually helpful and allow you to function in a way that keeps you safe and healthy. However, many of your defenses are self-defeating and prevent you from getting what you really want in life. All of your defenses were designed … Read more

All change in your life begins within you. Your desire for something to be better can put into action the elements necessary for change. In relationships remember that you cannot change another, only yourself. By changing yourself, your attitudes, thoughts, and feelings, you can automatically indirectly encourage change in another without them ever knowing. This … Read more

You and I have a problem. We live in a world that teaches too little about how to be happy and instead encourages self-indulgence, mediocrity, and instant gratification. We are surrounded by emotional and spiritual immaturity. There is a lack of understanding of how to love and a lack of capacity to take responsibility. Our … Read more

Approach your mate with a win-win attitude. Choose an attitude of “We both win in filling our needs.” Make sure that you share what you need and want with your mate. Don’t wait for your mate to guess what you want or what makes you feel good. Sometimes it is good to go into detail. … Read more