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Clarity and Trusting Yourself

Clear thinking gives you power. Clarity allows you to transcend confusion, ambiguity, and ambivalence. Clarity is the awareness of priorities, a recognition of what is important. By its nature clarity helps give you the impetus to act. A clear understanding of what is right and needed opens the door to positive action. Clear thinking is a sign of a willingness to take responsibility. Clarity requires courage, a willingness to be the only one with the right answer for you even when it seems the “right” answers are already apparent to others. Clarity sometimes calls for outrageous thinking. The minute you decide to be clear is the minute you claim your personal power. When you become clear, fate lends a hand and things begin to happen that support you.

Clarity comes from looking within yourself, telling yourself the truth, and trusting your answers. You were born with a natural capacity to look within yourself. From the beginning your only true reality has been your experience within yourself. However, your human needs for protection and nurturing forced you to look outward to the people who raised you. This was the beginning of your conditioning to look outward for solutions to problems. As life continued perhaps you learned to forget the treasure within yourself and looked to outside sources for your answers. Too few of us are fortunate enough to have had someone in childhood to remind us to look within ourselves. It is no mystery that there is so much confusion about so many things. So much poverty — material, financial, mental, and spiritual is linked to a lack of clarity. If you do not know what you want, how can you go about filling your needs? Sometimes people drift through life until outer conditions motivate or determine their decisions. They allow someone else or some outer condition to make decisions for them and thus determine their well-being. This can guarantee a lifetime of bitterness and helplessness.

To be clear thinking you must be willing to go it alone. Practice trusting your own perceptions. Claim your rightful position as master of your own life. You must trust that your essential Self will always give you the answers. But you must ask for the answers from within yourself.

In every one of your living moments, from the moment you awaken in the morning to the moment you drift off to sleep at night, you are presented with countless choices. What do you do with your time? How do you respond to this condition or that situation, or this or that person? What is your next career move? What should you do with your family situation? What shall you buy? What shall you wear? Should you own, change, improve, add to, enhance, or leave? You are literally bombarded with choices in your daily life. Advertising for lifestyle and product alternatives add to the baffling array of choices. Too many choices add to the stress and confusion you may already experience. The temptation to allow others to decide for you may seem overwhelming.

Simplify your life. Prioritize. Become clear about what is really important. Ask yourself, “What is important here? To what should I really pay attention? Are others’ points of view appropriate for me?”

What is important to you? Love? Money? Owning? Achieving? Being accepted? Knowing the truth? Getting recognition? Finding God? You know the answer. Tell yourself the truth.

If you are willing to let yourself know what is really important to you, all your decisions and actions will follow with relative ease. If you are split in what is important to you, you will be split in your messages to yourself and to others. This is dangerous because the split may cause counterproductive results. You will not be of one mind. You will be constantly correcting the decisions your “other self” has made and then beginning again.

Tell yourself the truth! Start with the Big Question: “What feelings and experiences do I want in my life?” Have the courage to know! You may be afraid to know the answer. If you allow your fear to stop you, you rob yourself of clarity, and hence your personal power. Once you answer for yourself this Big Question and let yourself know your life’s desires, you can begin to practice clarity in smaller things. “What do I want to eat? What should I do about this relationship? How should I communicate my needs? How can I give to others?” Decisions that before may have seemed difficult or bothersome to you become easier when you have answered the Big Question. Your life becomes simplified. Things you thought you should do and conditions you thought you should put up with no longer need your time and energy to negotiate. You have set yourself free by your willingness to tell yourself the truth about what you want.

Commit yourself to what you know to be true for you. Commit to the answers you find within yourself. Think on it daily and do not allow anything to deter you. In times of stress, remind yourself of your commitment. Make this commitment the most important thing in your life.

Of course, life has so many variables that all things are not immediately crystal clear. Go within yourself. Tell yourself the truth. Ask, “What do I want?” Ask this question over and over until you find the answer. Ask, “What should I do?” If you have answered the Big Question wisely and you have remained true to your answers, all your life decisions after that will automatically enhance others’ lives. If your answer to the “big questions” were based on love and wisdom, in the end you cannot really hurt others. Your inner clarity allows you to do difficult things because you see your vision clearly. You will be able to tolerate the misunderstanding and criticism of others because you know the wisdom of your actions. You have given yourself clarity. You have also given yourself innocence and integrity.

Clarity gives you confidence. Clarity gives you direction. Clarity gives you staying power. Clarity gives you courage. Clarity comes from your essential Self — from within you alone. Clarity with wisdom does not come from your ego. Clarity from your ego always ends up in pain. Clarity from your essential Self always ends in what is good for all.


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