Hi, I’m Dr. Wendy Hill. Do you have a feeling that something might have happened in your childhood that feels too scary or difficult to look at? Maybe something having to do with inappropriate sex? If you have this kind of feeling then chances are that something inappropriate did happen. It may have just gotten buried.
Whether remembered or not childhood sexual abuse can be devastating.
Those experiences we had in childhood are the foundation of how we view ourselves and our world. Positive experiences help create positive and healthy core beliefs about ourselves and pave the way to healthy loving relationships and experiences as an adult. Negative and upsetting experiences help create self-defeating core beliefs about ourselves. One of the most damaging experience one can have in childhood is molestation…in any form.
So devastation in fact that sometimes in order to emotionally survive we actually forget or repress the experience.
Sometimes we have a certain feeling about someone or about our childhood. That certain uncomfortable feeling may be your clue to something having happened in the past that had to do with some inappropriate sexual experience or experiences. All too often the perpetrator is someone the child knows and trusts…a family member, a babysitter, someone a parent brings into the home. Sometimes sexual abuse is graphically horrific and sometimes sexual abuse is inuindo, a lustful look, a verbal reference to sex, or an inappropriate pat or touch. No matter. If the behavior is brief and seemingly innocuous or repeated and traumatic it is still sexual abuse and needs to be addressed in therapy.
Recovering memory is the first step.
Sometimes one might have outright memory of sexual inappropriate experience. Having conscious memory of sexual abuse is a start but the incident or incidents need to be talked about, the feelings must be faced and dealt with, and the child you were needs to be rescued and psychologically brought to safety.
The trauma of sexual abuse must be dealt with sensitively and with compassion and patience. What happened is not your fault. You did not bring it upon yourself and you are worthy of love for yourself alone. If you think you might have been the victim of sexual abuse there is hope. You can heal the trauma and move on to a life of more confidence and peace of mind.
If you would like to know more about how to help yourself I invite you to a live zoom session or an in-person session in my office. You can download one of my self-guided workshops like The True Seeker’s Guide To A Better Life or The Call To Adventure or listen to my Life Lessons audios. Meanwhile I am here.
My very best to you, Wendy Hill, Ph.D.
Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse of children has been called the 'perfect crime' because the victim is a defenseless child who can be manipulated and threatened. The child feels shamed on a deep level and that shame follows the child throughout his or her life. The abuse need not be comparatively severe. Even a suggestion or an innuendo can damage a child. Some sexual abuse is simply visual exposure. Sometimes the event or events can be so traumatic that the child literally forgets the abuse. However, the emotional, spiritual, and social damage follows the child and causes chronic feelings of shame, guilt, worthlessness, and other unnamed fears. This is the bad news: childhood sexual abuse is severely damaging. This is the good news: childhood sexual abuse can be healed. With the use of hypnotherapy, counseling, regression, emotional release, and positive suggestion, childhood sexual abuse's affects can be significantly healed.
Molestation: The Family Secret
The perpetrator of childhood sexual abuse is often a family member or close friend of the family. A father, mother, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, grandparent, family friend, neighbor can be a perpetrator. Often the parent knows about or suspects the abuse but refuses to acknowledge it out of fear. The molestation becomes a family secret. All too often the child who already is experiencing profound shame is further damaged by the silence of a family member.
Childhood Sexual Abuse Causes Adult Problems
Relationship problems, self-esteem problems, anxiety, depression, overweight, addiction, and self-defeating behaviors are all the legacy of childhood sexual abuse. Even though the abuse may be forgotten or diminished, the affects continue to ravage one's ability to enjoy life. One may seek counseling without realizing that the origin of their problems is childhood sexual abuse.
Heal Sexual Abuse with Hypnotherapy Combined with Psychotherapy
If you have endured any level of sexual abuse, if you suspect you may have been abused, if you have feelings of shame, or if you feel you have secrets you must keep, you owe it to yourself to explore and heal whatever happened to you in the past. The first step is to admit to yourself that there is something that has been hurting you over which you feel powerless to change. The next step is to talk to someone about it. That someone may be a professional who specializes in this kind of healing. Professional advanced hypnotherapy is a powerful tool in healing childhood sexual abuse. With the use of regression one can safely and gently recover memory. By recovering memory of not only the event(s) but of the emotions and patterns of thought and behavior the abuse caused you, can release the power the abuse has had upon you.
It is Safe to Remember Sexual Abuse
Remembering past upsetting events is safe when you are guided by someone who is knowledgeable, compassionate, and patient. Childhood sexual abuse causes a deep shame that must be healed. This shame makes it difficult to face. The shame helps keep the secrets of past abuse. This is why it is imperative to work with someone who can help you gently approach the memories and emotions in a way and at a rate that is healthy and comfortable for you. Hypnotherapy and counseling presented in such a way is very helpful in recovering memories, expressing emotions, and resolving pain. You can emerge from the abuse feeling resolved with a greater sense of well-being and peace of mind.
Wendy Hill, PhD
Wendy has been in practice in psychotherapy and hypnotherapy for over 45 years. A high percentage of clients who seek Dr. Wendy's help for anxiety, depression, addiction, and relationship problems have been molested. Often those clients do not discover the hidden shame causing memories of molestation until they have been in therapy for a while. Once revealed to the conscious mind, you can be free of its shaming affects.To learn more about sexual abuse and it's resolution contact Dr. Wendy at 760-994-9296.